The root of “forgive” is the Latin word “perdonare,” meaning “to give completely, without reservation.

Which one easier? Forgiving someone or asking for forgiveness or maybe doing nothing related to this forgive/not choices. Don’t you know? Human today totaled about 7.8 Billion (according to worldometers.info), compared to a human lifespan, let’s say 70 years. This will take 2.208.986.640 seconds. More alive humans today rather than 70 years in seconds. Imagine if you going to meet new people every second, that still cannot fulfill to meet every people on earth. From the other point of view, in 70 years span, a human could be known by those numbers based on their achievement. Our seconds count, and life is a collection of decisions. Choose wisely.

If we having difficulty to forgive someone, it would cause us a huge problem in the future. Savings past scars and pains won’t bring any good. We just cultivating poison for our life. Everyone wants to have a good life, isn’t it? One way to obtain it is by forgiving others. It releases brokenhearted, vengeful feelings, negative thinking out of our system. Forgive is good for ourselves.

Forgive this forgive that, easy to say! Yes, it’s not an easy decision to take, we need to get used to this. Time heals they say, the truth is healing comes when we choose to forgive. All have come from our way of thinking, the harder it hit us, the harder we gonna overcome it. Humans start as a baby, then grown. Age is kept increasing, but maturity is a constant decision of life. Want to become mature? Choose forgiveness. Forgive as part of maturity.

Hey, when they do wrong to us, we should teach them a lesson so they won’t do it all over again. It’s common sense. But when we think more about it, it’s a shame if we spend our lives just to give the people who hurt us what they should receive based on our sense. To get the revenge that he/she deserves. Meanwhile, our life could be benefitted for a lot more things for our future. Let’s say grow our talent, maximize our skills, live out our passion, etc. To be able to reach the top is not easy, then why we should care to get revenge on others? We should focus on our race. Why? Because Payback is not our business, when it’s time, it’s time. Just believe it.

How can I forgive others easier? Try this simple change, we are easy to remember what others done bad to us, instead stop thinking about it. Don’t remember it every time, but erase it every time until you losing count. Keeping score versus losing count. Keeping score is hard and painful. Hurt is everywhere, the hurt is real, but staying bitter is a reaction.

What we can control is our reaction.
What we keep is what we gonna deliver.
What we forgive is what we don’t want to keep inside.
Live happily? Choose the Lifestyle of constant forgiveness.

All of the human unhappiness comes from one single thing: not knowing how to remain at rest in a room.

Blaise Pascal